It’s the time of year when most of us are thinking about what we would like to happen in the coming months….. again…. we do it every January and by May… not much has happened. So why don’t we already have what we want; we’ve been on this planet for a while now?

The number one reason people don’t already have what they want is because they have learnt not to allow themselves to want what they deep down think they can’t have.

In order to avoid disappointment we systematically cut ourselves off from our natural flow of ‘wanting’ and resign ourselves to ‘take what we’re given’ and to ‘make do’, or to set ‘realistic’ goals that we think we can attain. BUT there are two main problems with setting ‘realistic’ goals and they are:

1. Our idea of ‘reality’ is so distorted by our hopes and fears, our beliefs and lack of belief; that by the time we set our ‘realistic’ goals, they are so watered down they no longer bear any resemblance to what we actually want.

2. Our tendency to approach goal setting with our sensible, analytical left-brain, and make a left-brain plan which takes into account life’s annoying lack of co-operation by creating obstacles that we explain away in our left-brain in a cause-and-effect way.

In fact, your goal setting may actually be getting in the way of having what you want. By setting goals based on what you think you can have instead of what you really want, you’re setting yourself up to lose because you’ll lack the inspiration necessary to fuel your journey and give up somewhere along the way.

“The great danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it”   ~ Michelangelo

I’ve got so many things I want to get done just now… I think this might be a good exercise to start tomorrow with….

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